As I post this entry from Mom's office, formerly my childhood bedroom, in Philadelphia I can hardly believe how quickly things have changed. After the oncologist's news near the end of last week we were all saddened and concerned and made plans to get here today or tomorrow to spend time with Mom and support Dad. Grant and I and our families were attending various holiday celebrations with friends back in Pittsburgh when the hospice nurse announced that things had taken a drastic turn, and we all rushed here last night, arriving around midnight.
Currently, Mom is on oxygen and resting comfortably in bed, receiving occasional doses of liquid morphine. She seems to recognize us and smiles when we tell her stories and sing to her, but hasn't really opened her eyes and has only said a word or two every couple of hours. This morning, Miles and Claire sat in bed with her and hugged her, which perked her up a bit, and she did take a few sips of water. She hasn't eaten since Saturday. Dad's sister Lisa, a nurse, is here with us--the "us" includes Dad, Grant, Deborah, Miles, Claire, John, and me. We are so grateful for the Lord's mercy in giving us time to spend with Mom and for keeping her pain at bay.
It seems unfathomable to me that just two weeks ago we were all out to brunch for Father's Day and Mom was eating bacon and eggs. Grant and I spent some time in the middle of the night just holding Mom's hand and talking to her about Heaven and all of the joy that awaits here there. We know even in these hours of terrible sadness that we will all we feasting again together one day.
Your support and love continues to be vital. Please understand that we cannot respond to all texts and e-mails personally right at this moment but I promise to post as regulary as I can over the next hours and days.
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Nadine, even in this anguished time, I hope you & the rest of your family take comfort in knowing you're exactly where you're supposed to be, when you're supposed to be, sharing your love & God's with your mom. She's surrounded by her 7 favorite people on this earth, besides her dad.
ReplyDeleteI've been thinking about Deb a lot, of course. I was thinking about various college nicknames. Mike called your mom Bubbles at a retreat junior year. Deb called your dad Bip, me Bijoni, and Mike Michael John.
I've also been thinking about how your parents enjoyed sunsets during their time in Rhode Island. When my dad died, a well-meaning friend sent a sympathy card that said, "A sunset on earth is a sunrise in heaven." I pondered that, trying to decide if it was a cheesy sentiment or somewhat comforting. I decided the latter, and hope it is to your family, too.
I'm in Delaware, and had e-mailed your mom asking if I could visit this week or the first week of August. I don't want to intrude on your family time. If you think it will register with Deb, please tell her that Bijoni & Michael John send their love & prayers.
Love,
Aunt B.J.
Just know that my prayers and thoughts are with all of you always.
ReplyDeleteLove,
Carol
Thanks Nadine, this is helpful for so many. Even those nearby appreciate
ReplyDeletethe family "take" on things and your beautiful honesty. It is so hard to keep up with all the people who want to say goodbye or just check in for a hello.
Posting your desires is excellent.
Don and I wish you some peaceful hours to just be with one another.
We are ready for anything you need as we all think of celebrating Deb's
life. Love,
Bonnie and Don
We are praying for you and your family - for God to wrap His arms around you all as he welcomes your mom into her heavenly home. May you find comfort in his word and joy in the many wonderful memories you have with your mom. She is a wonderful woman, and a blessing as a friend and "mom" advisor and mentor to me and my family.
ReplyDeleteOur prayers are with you daily. Embrace this time of togetherness. Even in your sadness and anguish, your faith in the great promises of God will keep you upheld. Let Him carry you.
ReplyDeleteNadine, I've heard your mom speak of you so often- how lovely you are, how mature you are, how sensitive you are. But I never realized until today, after I met you for the first time, what a special daughter you are to Will and Deb. Even in this time of great sadness, your light shines through to brighten everyone around you. In the short time I have known your mom, I have come to love her goodness and friendship. Juan and I will miss her joy and beauty. Thank you so much for all the wonderful words you have given to her friends and family through this blog. And even if you feel you can't verbalize your feelings, know that everything you have written here will be a testament going forward.
ReplyDeleteGod bless and keep you and John, Grant and his family and your Dad and may you find strength and courage in the coming days.
Fondly
Ann O'Donnell
If I have one word to describe Deb, its grace. Her presence and her strength of conviction will be missed in our Wellness group. I will miss her.
ReplyDeleteJuan
A quick correction from my post yesterday: Since Lisa and maybe even a few others are with you by now, I should just say what a blessing it is that Deb is surrounded by her favorite people, and not specify a number.
ReplyDeleteLove & prayers,
B.J.
Thank you for letting me share in some special time with my best friend. I am praying for God's peace to surround you and for Him to wrap His loving arms around you as He welcomes His good and faithful servant into His Kingdom.
ReplyDeleteI am so glad to hear that you are all with Deb! Having family surrounding her is the most important medicine now. You are all in such a difficult place and I pray for all of you to be as strong as you can and I know you will cherish every moment you have with Deb. Her friends from Robertson's absolutely cherished our time together on Friday at Cake. It is so hard to hear how things are going. Sending love and blessings to you all.
ReplyDeleteLove and Peace,
Kathy Lopez
Dear Deb, Will, Nadine and Grant,
ReplyDeleteI just wanted to let you know my prayers have been with you daily over the last couple of months when Eileen Snodgrass shared your website with me. I am thinking of all of you and wanted you to know that people are praying that you don't even know. I know the Lord is close to your family at this time. Susan Null